♡ 52 ( +1 | -1 ) Unsortsmanlike behaviour!Recently a member of my team left and started ignoring me because I came back from being a Q down and on the brink of mate to be able to capture his Q and even out the score again he the resigned and i messaged him telling him that there was no need to resign as he could have captured my R with his N he made no reply left the team and is now ignoring me whats more we have to play a few more games in a mini tourny we get 5 moves in he resigns!?!? does this guy hate people helping him out that much?
♡ 45 ( +1 | -1 ) usethepawn,I can't remember seeing anything in the laws of chess that requires a player to be "sportsmanlike". I have to wonder why you ask here if he hates people helping him out, are we supposed to know the answer, or give you some deep and wise explanation of what motivates him?. You are the captain of your team and he was a member. Perhaps you could ask your other members why he left. My question to you is, does it really matter why he did what he did? It seems to me that his actions are his own business, not ours.
♡ 50 ( +1 | -1 ) usethepawn,your profile shows that you are 14 years old. May be he is 41 and just hate kids trying to help him out hehehehe... just kidding :) My point is, we are here of different ages. Sometimes we think others are as old as we are and react as if we are of the same age.
Or, may be he is younger or as old as you are that sportmanslike and your leadership are not in his book. When I joined a junior tournament for the first time (and the only one), I kicked out the rank #1 player quite early (it was swiss system). Nobody ever seen my face in the chess tournaments. Can you imagine how he reacted?
♡ 31 ( +1 | -1 ) usethepawn Don't be discouraged mate. You endeavored to be of help & he essentially thumbed his nose at you; you do not even owe him the time of day now! Besides, I think we have a number of players on this site that are still sportsmanlike.
I've often said that the human race bear defeat, but it can't bear humility. Sign of the times, alas.
♡ 59 ( +1 | -1 ) USETHEPAWNFor future reference, I noticed it would be more helpful to tell him that BEFORE he resigned !! :) I'm just joking though, how you supposed to know they are going to resign when they DO have a way out of it! I can only guess tho, that he may have believed you to be gloating, since there was no way he could "unresign", as far as I know. I believe only timeout games can be "reinstated". If he KNOWS that particular fact, and you Dont Know that and were thinking it Could be reinstated ... then it seems perhaps that is the basis of a misunderstanding between you. Might that be the case? Regards }8-)
♡ 126 ( +1 | -1 ) PS //In general it may be a bad idea to try to provide such help during the course of a game. Consider the possibilities. 1) They may think you are trying to gloat or rub in that you play better. 2) They may see it and believe you are saying you think they will NOT find it, which can be interpretted as you think they are stupid. 3) You Might be Wrong! So they take youre advice, you notice it was bad advice and win a piece from them for instance ... They are not happy :) See what I am getting at? Really IMO it is much better to simply offer to have a friendly "post-mortum" review after the game is all said and done. Actually it IS considered ettiquette in any form of serous chess, including correspondence, not to discuss a game in progress, which includes with your opponent, as well as with others. *** This following I know you didnt ask, so I just include it for the record and for anyone who might not know it. ... While it is legal to make a remark about a game you are playing, to a third person (EG He is killing me!), even that may turn out to be inadvisable because they just might offer their own comment about it and that is illegal. Receiving any such commentary that might be construed as "advice" is Always Illegal in any non-skittles game, even if you dont ask for the advice.
♡ 22 ( +1 | -1 ) I didnt make the comment until it was finishedI just pointed out a move that he could have made instead of resigning he took it completely the wrong way left the team started ignoring me and resigned a few far from lost team games in the process.